Hi all,

Welcome to the space to change your life

I’ve just returned from Amsterdam where I spent three days with Dr. Richard Bandler and John LaValle. The Best of Bandler covered the latest developments in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Design Human Engineering (DHE) and Neuro Hypnotic Reprogramming (NHR).

The part that was most interesting for me personally was that this time I was there in the role of assistant rather than participant. Seeing things from this side was interesting and started me thinking about how in conflicts, seeing the argument from the other position is often the key to resolution so I’m giving you the steps to a simple exercise that will allow you to see things from the other side.

So when you are facing a conflict take a few minutes out to follow the steps below and gain the insight you need.

1. Think of a problem you have been having. Establish the people involved.


2. Allocate a position on the floor to each person involved including yourself.


3. Now allocate a position to the Meta person. The Meta person is like the benevolent stranger. Somebody who has no emotional investment in anybody involved and who is very kind.


4. Step onto your own position and talk about the problem from your point of view only. Mention possible solutions.


5. Step onto the position of the next person. Assume their body stance and language. (Get into their shoes!) Talk about the problem and possible solutions from their point of view only. Remember to use I statements!!


6. Repeat step 5 until all persons involved have spoken.


7. Now step onto the Meta position. On the Meta position talk about what other people have said. I.e. so what I’ve heard is Mary said…Joe said…etc.


8. Return to your own position and bring back any insight and solution. Check that all solutions are ecologically sound.

Follow the steps and let me know how you get on. Pass this newsletter on to all your friends.

As always, remember to enjoy life, be kind to yourself and have some fun!

To book any course contact Karen on (087) 6272007

Check out the website for more details

Telephone: 0504 41409
Karen's Mobile: 087 6272007
Karens Email: info@skillsquestcompany.com
Website: www.skillsquestcompany.com

Cannot view this newsletter, click here